Why Marriages Break - A Root Cause Analysis And A Way To Do Match Making Between Two Horoscopes.
My Point of view
In My Experience, I have seen even after Good matching points between two horoscopes and having more than 30 Guna's people still facing many issues in their marital life & problems keep disturbing in marriage & personal life.
You know why this is happening? Because of Half-baked Copy-Cat knowledge of Jhola Chap Commercial Astrologers, predicting based on mere so-called mis - conceptualized and manipulated Modern concepts like Kaal Sarpa Yoga, Manglika yoga, and there are many such more concepts and yogas are present which are not mentioned in any of classical works, without evaluating true reasons for post marriages issues, people are blindly following commercial astrologers.
In My opinion, they are simply ruining the image of Vedic Astrology, without doing any statistical research on post & pre Marriages issues, blind match makings are made.
Without Digging Deep details on two horoscopes they are simply claiming match is perfect, in my view its a dangerous method of ruining the life of two people and two emotional family values.
For Perfect Matching between two horoscopes learned astrologers should do Lagana Matching and Up-Pada(UL) Matching before approaching to final verdicts on horoscopes.
Based on "Karama and Rebirth In Hindu Astrology" as Explained by K.N Rao, Natal chart and rest of Divisional charts clearly shows the Bonds and linkage of the family members we are born into (D1, D9 (Spouse), D12 (Parents, Ancestors), D3(Siblings) and D7(Children's).
For e.g 7th house/lord of the D1 and D9 Shows connectivity of both the couple and it should be examined thoroughly to see the Karmic connection between two of them, for deep connection one should analyze or Match Up-pada Lagana of both the charts to see the soul connectivity.
For Shorter, casual flicks, Livin-Relations, one should analyze A7(Dara-pada) Arudha/Lord of both the couple charts and their relation or influence of planets on A7, It should show connectivity and sort of sexuality or sort of infatuation one have for other one or partners he or she meets.
Moreover Relationship of Both the Venus and Rahu over each other natal placement in two charts also shows the Stronger Attraction or connecting point between two people i.e Rahu over Venus, or Venus over Rahu in any of the chart (either Husband or wife or Gf or Bf, or people of karmic attraction) shows one cannot resist each other attraction or it's very hard for both couples to stay away from much longer period. Rahu aspects the Same sign where other person Venus is placed also shows the Same scenario of uncontrolled desire and passion for each other or strong karmic connection.
Placement and Transit of Mars and Venus over Other chart sign (Where their Mars or Venus placed) also shows where and one can meet each other, shows what is the point of attraction or what made them attract each other.transit of Mars over Venus shows when can one meet his love of life.
5th house/Lord of the Husband and wife shows what could be their future life wrt to children's well-being.4th House/Lord of both the charts show how they live in next house with family members; Happily or it would be a path of cactus.Because of the Runanubandham we born in a family falls in close relations, having close friendships, love other people and shares much close bonding between them.
Below are the points explained by Rao sir based on the Padma Puran:
1) Those who have given Loans in the past life become our Relations in the present birth.
2) The Spouse, The Parents, Siblings, Relations, Servants all are born as a result of the Rinanubandhan.
3)Each one of the relations born according to the Motives of capturing karmas of the present life soon after the death. In the Present birth When he gets that motive fulfilled, after giving terrible pain, departs and leaves a karmic impression in the mind of the native.
4)He Who Lost his property through deceit in the past birth is born as the handsome and accomplished son in the present birth and after inflicting terrible pain goes away.
5) He who takes Loans from others and dies without discharging it takes his birth in that family as a father, brother, wife or friend etc. His behavior is evil. He treats everyone badly, Speaks harshly and enjoys harshly and enjoys life at the cost of others.
6) Bad Children's behaves like an enemy, hates his parents, makes fun of them, criticizes them, after this marriage, he swindles his parents also.
7) Good children's obeys his parents from his Childhood, after growing up he keeps remembers to look after his parents, talks sweetly to them and keep them happy always.After the death of the parents, he performs all such rituals i.e Sraddah to give them happiness even in the world to which they have departed after death.
Astrologically for understanding Runanubandham and Karmic relations between two people, we need to first understand the karka of planets responsible for karmic linkage and bondages i.e Venus, Rahu, Saturn and AK, Darakarka connection between two people in natal/Navamsa chart.
Linkage of Venus of two charts with Rahu and Mars and Darakaraka planet/Lord shows our partners/wife/husband characteristics, nature and soul of the partner we are seeking from long past or we may get or influenced by it because of soul level connectivity .
Darakarka can be any planet having lowers degree in chart i.e Sun, Moon, Mercury etc and the house Darakarka is attached with that, shows the learning and lessons connected with that, if DK is somehow afflicted by Nodes or other separative planets, it can shows the level of sufferings and lessons we may get by the Partner i.e it can be monetary, relationship and sexual lessons too.Purpose of any chara Karka in any of the chart is to filter that house or planet characteristics in longer run for higher purpose.
Navamsa chart 7th house/lord planet has deeper says on Physical characteristics and matching between two people i.e It is possible that the planet placed in D9 7th house has some link with the Lagana and characteristics of the partner. If Mercury is placed in D9 7th house of the Husband shows wife must be having deeper skills, characteristics, colour complexion resemblance with mercurial traits. Wife might be very much skilled, communicative, stout, Having wheatish/Greyish or darkish complexion or lagana of the wife might be influenced by the Mercury.
In Chara Karka Principals, DK Being a Lagnesh and 7th lord always be a learning lesson for the native if he fail to understand the actual meaning of Dk is, Usually i have seen When DK is 7th lord, native usually have distorted ideas with respect to sexuality and spirituality. Native might feel difficulty to understand what actual is relationship, either he refrained from getting intimate with the partner or he feels that the bond of marriage is very pious and very spiritual and in reverse case native is too attached with the idea of sexuality and libido, this somehow indicates level of lessons and sufferings via partnerships and other partner.
If DK Being a lagnesh native might get spiritual lessons via his partners and helps him or her to understand the true meaning of Relationship bond. Purpose of Karka is only to filter the Soul of the native in right direction to get heal or release pain of karmic bonds.
In Many of cases, Either it is a case of Boy or girl, if AK is malefic and 7th lord too and it is retrograde, this will clearly indicates the level and pain of relationship suffering will be very much intense due to the overindulgence in sexual relationships or having higher libido in marriage , Usually these people have idea that the marriages and relationships are only meant for Sexual gratification of senses. If they didn't get in one relationship, for satisfying their senses they keep on falling in other relationships till they are not satisfied and result is numerous Disturbance in karmic energies due to many sexual relationships before and after marriage.
As per my experience, If you found someone you met or interact with deeper emotional sharing that doesn't means the guy or girl is your true soul mate, it is only a relation of Karmic bond and the reason being you are strongly connected with that person might be due to Sharing of Same Atma Karka, i.e Both the girl and guy having Same AK in their natal chart this clearly means connection of two souls from past lives, If Guy AK is lord of 5th house and and girl Ak is lord 7th house then the level of Bond will be very strong and if it is afflicted it can shows sufferings, if it is without affliction that can shows long lasting karmic bond unless the debits is not fulfilled.
True Spiritual Relationship between two people happens when the AK of any one of the person is connected with UP-pada lagana/Lord of the other one in natal chart.If Laganas of both the couple fall in each of their UL then it clearly shows both the couple are made for each other and they will understand each other in Soul level and will help in karmic uplifting of the karamas.
Multiple relationships before marriage are seen from the Strength of A7 ( Dara-pada) lord in D1 and D9 chart, If A7 is getting aspects from many planets that can shows native might fall in number of relationship but it is not sure all the relationships will be sexual or karmic.
If A7 lord is having relationship with the 7th house or 7th lord or if the 7th lord aspects the 7th house or UL then the motive of the marriage would be only physical or getting sexual gratification from marriage.
If A7/Lord is having mutual relation with the Arudha Lagana ( AL) - native will interact with number of people of Opposite sex but it is not sure interaction will be physically oriented unless and until both the lords are having link with the 7th house or lord.
If A7 and UL both are somehow interconnected in D1 it clearly shows love marriage between two people but the longevity of the bond only be dependent on the strength of 2nd lord from UL in D9 and D60 chart.
Presence of 7th lord or venus in 7th house also shows getting relationships only for satisfying higher libido or sexual gratification with the people those falling in close friend circle area.
Connection of 11th lord With A7/lord also shows Relationship with the close friend circle area those whom you get interacted via Social network, the planet which is connected with the A7 shows what sort of connection helps to get close, i.e Venus - Shows getting close with friends after parties and social communities or gathering etc.
Same-way, If we see the root cause of any relationship, In Deeper reality, any long lasting and Deep rooted relationships or Marriage relationships are a fruits/results of our good Sanchit (9th house/lord) and bad Prarabdh (6th house/lord) karmas we perform in earlier births those we take in cosmic cycle of birth system.
Based on those accumulated karmas either we enjoy (Punya karama -5th house ; kids, if 5th house is well placed or somehow connected with the 9th/9th lord) those relations or realises or suffer (In that case Level of Karmic suffering would be seen in D30 chart and lord of 6th/8th of d1 in D30 shows the deep rooted issue and level of sufferings) on account of those relations based on good/bad deeds we had done in past.
If you had done good Karamas in past birth Marriage will be most fruitful and same result can be check in D9 (Dharamsa - Fruits of Sanchit and Dharama related to marriage and relations) and d60 (Past Karmic actions) chart too.
In D9 or D60 chart Venus (In Male charts) and Jupiter, Mars and Darakarka planet (In Female charts) will be free from any affliction, if the relations are fruitful.
In Many of case if Ak Is badly afflicted with nodes and somehow connected with Venus or Darakarka relationship will be intense and suffering can be indicated.
If you had done anything bad wrt to any men or women in many of past birth, in current birth chart, 6th House and 6th lord in D1 will be most afflicted and somehow will be connected with DK/AK/UL or 2nd from UL and will always try to disturb the marriage in any way.
Whenever 6th lord make any relationship or influences the 7th house, 7th lord, UL/lord (Up-pada Lagana) or A7/lord (Darapada) in d1 chart and other marriage supporting houses natives either will face delays in the marriages,suffers or if somehow native falls in relation of love or close bonding, relationship will be like a path of cactus or level of suffering in that relationship will be intense or severe and can be soul revealing.In severe cases AK is closely influenced nodes and somehow connected with DK/Venus/UL/A7 lord.
In many of cases i have seen if AK is deeply afflicted or some way connected with Suffering (8th lord) houses/lords/nodes or has some relation with either Venus or UL or A7 arudha it can also shows problem after getting relationship. The only Purpose of all is to realise the soul, the lesson of pasts karmic actions or realising the pending karamas and moving ahead after the pain and guilt, just to self realise same-way one has given sufferings to the other, you also also have to go through with same pain. Karmas role is to always realise or teach the soul suffering for deeper spiritual growth in current birth.
Some souls fall on account of those suffering but some souls get transform them into new beginning of spiritual life.
This can be check in D9 chart with the strength of Ak, If Ak is deeply conjugated with Malefic planets/nodes or debilitated placed in trik Bhavas from Lagana of D9, it clearly indicates level of soul suffering will be intense and one has to suffer badly on account of past deeds and possibility is too that either native fall back in this birth unless and until he realizes the true essence of lessons , as Ak is weakly placed and debilitated too. Debellation shows the Tamao Guna nature of the soul , means bad karmic actions in this birth.
Choice is clearly in the hands of native what he want to achieve from that suffering, rise from that or fall in that. This clearly suggests one has to pay back its karma in any form, either in this birth or in next birth if somehow native able to carry forward it to next with the blessings of Seers and divine souls.
In Broader level Good Karamas are mainly categorised in Sanchit Karamas, even though bad are also categorised in it too but level of result is quiet different. Result of Sanchit karma can come out at any time in your life when good dashas and transit supports. May be it can come in pre-marriage life or may be after post marriage life.It is purely dependent on transits of slow moving planets with dashas of 6th/8th/12th or nodes on those houses having relation with past deeds.
Lagana Matching gives complete knowledge on nature, Spiritual values, frequency and thinking the intensity of two couples, qualities and level of intelligence between two couples which can be a measure for building block & growth in marriage relationships, Up-pada Lagana matching gives complete information on soul level compatibility between two couples.
Lagana Sign should be compatible to each other i.e If one has Cancer Lagana and Other lagana you are matching is Aquarius than it would be a dangerous match which deliberately become a main reason for hardship and suffering in marriage relationship, it can give massive amount of emotional turbulence and Physical separation as well as suffering in emotional/personal values of two couples which can give arise sever enmity between two people.
6/8 is a Dangerous relation between two lagnas , both the laganas are falling to their 6th(enemity) and 8th(Suffering) house respectively, both the people never ever gone able to stabilize each other with their physical, intelligence, emotional and thought level harmonies.
One is a watery and other is an Airy Lagana ; two different domain cant be perfect for long term relationships.
Perfect Rule is, always Match signs of lagana either falling in trine( 1 , 5 and 9th house from your lagana ) to each other or in mutual kendra to each other ( 4, 7 and 10th from your Lagana).
2/12 is another Most incompatible match where one has to face Miscommunication and other has to face setback in emotional expectations.One need attention but other is not ready to give any attention or enough caring toward the values of other emotional need.
It is a bit Mismatch relationship between two people, so never match laganas falling in 2 and 12th house to each other.
If you are matching a Girl chart check her 1st house for presence of any malefic house ( for any Rigidness in Nature ), afterward check her 2nd house - for any malefic planet placement house of speech and family values. Than check her 4th house - if there is presence of malefic planets in 4th house - girl cant be stable in next home she is going to join with the in-laws family and soon she has to leave the house of in-laws and there wont be any harmony or peace after marriage. This could lead a major break-up due to issues with inlaws families.
4th house is falling 10th to 7th house - a Play ground for Marriage relationship where actual cricket match plays after marriage - if any malefic planets are there match can be ruin with violence and aggression toward family.
2nd house is 8th from 7th house - again a Karka of Suffering to 7th house properties, any malefic in 2nd house - gone suffer family values of both spouse.
1st house is directly opposition to your 7th house of Partner - if any malefic present , both the ideology never gone match ever in life and there will be life of Ego and opposition of views.
Now Coming to 7th house - If there will be any Negative planets in 7th house , Spouse always negatively treat partner or may be she dont like the attitude of the partner. Malefic in 7th house always be a case of ill treatment with partner which again lead to a battle ground for either extra-marital relationship or having out of wed lock situation.
8th house should be clean with any negativity - if there is any nodal or any malefic planets placed in 8th house - there will be a Major violence in relationship after marriage, it can be related with sexual incompatibility between two couples or might be sexual frequency never gone matches with each other and they may gone separate soon due to heavy violence , animistic sexual behavior or due to Sever Financial losses or joint ventures may gone face hardship.
If there is Any Malefic in 10th house - it will lead downfall to career of partner after marriage.
Most Important - 12th house should be clean from malefic influence in both Couples i.e from Mars , Rahu + added Venus for females , if it is then there always be secret enmity or hidden relationships behind Wall and two people cant sleep in one room ever.
Most Important - In Female Chart - Venus shouldn't be there in 6th & 12th house either in D1 and D9 Chart - In My experience i have seen legal separation very often soon after marriage.
Karka of Feminism , Women-ism and Relationship Shouldn't be Debilitated in D9 Chart for longevity of marriage.
Reason for Legal Separation and Divorce Is seen from Affliction in 8th house or 8th lord , 6th house and 6th lord, 6th house and 6th lord promotes bachelor hood and 8th lord and 8th house promotes Inability to fall in marriage and also marak for 7th house too, 6th house and 6th lord is Marak for 5th house matters - True Love and Kids.
In 6th Lord Major/Antar Dasha period usually tension arises in both couple and they may opt for legal separation or paper work May starts in 6th lord AD period.Dasha of 8th house planets gives temporary Separation which can lead to legal separations.
Sun + Venus Close conjunction within 6 Degree is Most disastrous Combination for Legal Separation and Disputes between couples.
In D9 Chart - 8th and 2nd house Should be clean from any Malefic Influence i.e Mars , Rahu and Saturn.
In D9 chart if 7th lord is with Nodal axis- it may give argumentative spouse who always involve in Starting of issues in personal life.
Presence of Malefic Influence on D9 7th house gives - Very Bad , Mean and Argumentative Spouse and may always give interest in mean people other than marriage.
For Longevity point of view of Spouse in Female chart - always check strength of Jupiter in D1, D9 and D60 chart.
For Longevity point of view of Spouse in male chart - always Check Strength of Venus in D1 , D9 and D60 chart.
If there is Presence of Mars , Rahu and Venus influence is there on 2nd house of D9 - Relationship with other women or men could be reason for break in Marriage.
All the combinations which i have explained above are based on my Experience on Martial discords which i had came across in my recent years observations.All the experience are based on practical and real Life case study analysis.
2nd Major Way to check Couple compatibility is UL Matching ( Up-Pada Lagana Matching). UL Indicates Soul Nature of Spouse and DK indicates Soul quality of Partners - it includes Every relationship - Gf/bf/Sexual/Business/Spouse too.
Presence of Malefic Planets in UL indicates - Bad Soul Nature of Spouse , Presence of Malefic planets in 2nd from UL gives - Reason for breakup or Separation between couples.
6/8 and 2/12 Relation of AL and UL gives Bad compatibility between couples.
Presence of malefic planets in 8th from UL gives - Probability of 2nd Spouse after one serious Major break-up.
Presence of malefic planets in 8th from UL gives - Probability of 2nd Spouse after one serious Major break-up.
7th from UL gives People who are Openly opposing the Spouse i.e Mars - Brothers , Venus - Sisters or females friends , Sun - father in Law , Moon - Mother in law.
Weakness of 2nd lord from UL gives when relationship can break or in which Rasi Dasha it can break the relationship and also gives clue how relationship breaks.
Lagana of Spouse should fall either trine from UL or Kendra from UL for perfect harmony between couples , other than trine and Kendras gives Issues after marriage.
Matching and finalizing the horoscopes based on Gunas Milan is a dangerous system which i have seen Jhola-Chaap Astrologers are doing these days , ruining the emotional values of Two families.
Even The Lord Shiri Rama and Mata Sita has Matching points over than 34 but they still got separated due to Complicity and environment factors arises after marriage.
So, my Dear Learned and innocent members never go & opt blind matching based system on Gunas, Please get evaluate over all Analysis before confirming or finalizing two horoscopes.